Why are men who are so hot in bed usually losers?

Seems like the loosers have more time to work on their bedroom skills, whereas the over-achieving type are more focused on reaching life goals, and devote more time to that. Also, the loosers generally get by on smooth talking or wooing women and getting them to support them, pay for thier living expenses, etc.... the 'winners' do it all on their own. thus, the loosers NEED those 'skills' to survive, and the decent men end up getting compared to them, and end up feeling even more inadequate, and give up even trying....